30 Days of truth: Day 18

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Day 18 → Your views on gay marriage.

Gay marriage? What’s the problem with it? There isn’t one. A bunch of frightened people who don’t have the courage to try to understand differences, who react with fear instead of trying to overcome it, have made a huge deal out of this. It’s a stupid problem. For a long time, people who were different from each other couldn’t marry – people who were of different races, for instance. Now people are fussing because people who are the same want to marry.

People are people. People love people. There is no reason why people who love each other should not be able to promise to love each other for the rest of their lives. If it’s legally binding for me and my husband, it should be legally binding for friends of ours who happen to both be men. They love each other. They are in a stable relationship. They are in it for the long haul. Their relationship improves their world and the world of people around them. They are better people together than apart, as are Xander and I.

Oh, and if you want to make the argument that people who can’t have children together should not be married? Shove it. We can’t have kids and no one seems to have a problem with our marriage. A lot of married people don’t have kids. That doesn’t make the marriage any less valid.

Gay marriage should be normal. Marriage between two consenting adults should be normal and accepted and no big deal. Unless you have very compelling arguments I haven’t heard yet (“god said so” doesn’t count, and I’ve heard pretty much all of the arguments and none of them hold up to scrutiny) I’m going to have to say “You’re wrong. You’re afraid. Get over it. It isn’t hurting you.”

Come on, people. Everyone is not just like you. Stop being afraid, stop trying to limit other peoples’ lives and rights, and focus on living your life without hurting other people.

Next: Day 19 → What do you think of religion? Or what do you think of politics?